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chicken156 Skiller	3 years, 1 month ago by chicken156 Hiiii! need some tips 🙃🙃
crafter83 Bracelet King	3 years, 1 month ago by crafter83 Just make sure to wait to tell someone you’re dependent on, if you’re not sure they’ll handle it well
pasteltrin Professional	3 years, 1 month ago by pasteltrin depends on who you're talking to of course, but for me when i came out to my dad i called him, that way in case it went badly i could just hang up (it ended up going well though!) for the rest of my family who is not as accepting, i'm nervous about it but i've written a letter explaining myself and am going to mail a copy to each household. hope this helps and remember that you're always loved and valid <3

Kiwi_art Bracelet King	3 years, 1 month ago by Kiwi_art 1 Don’t come out until you’re ready. 2 Tell someone u trust and u think would react well, but if it’s easier to tell someone u don’t depend on (like crafter said) it’s sometimes easier, it was for me at least. 3 wether you come out thru a phone call or a letter or in person, be yourself! Don’t let your nerves get to you too much (if you’re nervous) it’s your story, make it what you want. AND LASTLY YOU ARE IMPORTANT, LOVED, SUPPORTED, AND VALID <3 I hope it goes well! 💅🏻🌈🏳️‍🌈✨
chicken156 Skiller	3 years, 1 month ago by chicken156 Thank you all for your tips 🙂🙂
indaco Bracelet King	3 years, 1 month ago by indaco Ask yourself why you want to come out. It’s hard for me to explain im
indaco Bracelet King	3 years, 1 month ago by indaco Sent too early lol I’m sorry, please ignore the first message till I finished writing the next one
chicken156 Skiller	3 years, 1 month ago by chicken156 Ok lol

indaco Bracelet King	3 years, 1 month ago by indaco Ask yourself why you want to come out first. It’s hard to explain in English, but I’ll try… I am part of the LGBTQ+ community, most people I know irl know about this, but I never actually “come out” because I don’t understand why do we have to come out (unless you are under the trans umbrella and you want people to call you by your real name and to use the correct pronouns). You never hear about a straight boy telling his parents that he likes girls, why do cishet people get to just be, but we have to come out? As if straight was the default… so I never came out, I just exist as I like (but I know that I am also very lucky, not everybody has had as easy as me, I am very aware of that). On the other hand, why do other people who might be dangerously homophobic need to know? It is none of their business, you get to live your life as you want without listening to their bigoted unsolicited opinions. If you still live with your homophobic parents/guardians, coming out could be unnecessarily dangerous, they don’t have to know! Why do they? If your parents are allies, they should be ok with you coming over with a girlfriend, a boyfriend, a partner or none, no coming out needed If you don’t live with your parents anymore and you are economically independent, you are free! You can literally do whatever you want! Congratulations! (But it sadly depends on the country you live in) If you still feel to have a reason to come out, that’s amazing! Your reasoning will now be stronger and you’ll hopefully be more confident about it. I support you! If you feel comfortable enough, you can share it, maybe I’ll change my mind. I might have simply forgotten an important reason to come out. If you don’t want to share, that’s ok! Again, I understand the reason people come out when they are under the trans umbrella and they need people to call them by their real name Now the actual ✨ TIPS ✨ 🧸 Firstly, make sure to always have someone who loves you “near” you: they don’t have to be a irl friend, they could be an online friend or a community like BB, they will cheer you up if it goes wrong or share happiness if it goes well! 👫 Tell friends first, then siblings, parents and lastly the other relatives: you probably want your parents to discover it from you, not from your aunt 🫂 The first time, tell only one friend, the one that sounds the most open-minded, so that you’ll have an ally by your side (after that you can tell your other friends): it’s much easier when you are not alone and you have them with you 💖 If you get negative comments, they tell nothing about you, they tell everything about who said them: you are great, don’t listen to them! If they are homophobic it’s their problem, nobody has to hide something natural, valid and beautiful just because someone else is bigoted 🌈 Remember that the decision is always YOURS, I am just a random stranger from the internet, I am just sharing a different way to see coming out and some tips. You can do what you want and whenever you want, you are VALID and you’ll always be 🍀 GOOD LUCK 🍀 This took me an hour, I can’t believe it lol
indaco Bracelet King	3 years, 1 month ago by indaco It didn’t look so long in my phone’s notes 😨 the actual tips start when you see the emojis
chicken156 Skiller	3 years, 1 month ago by chicken156 Tysm can believe u took a whole hour just for helping someone lol 🥹

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