LGBTQ+ Advice
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Emakes
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4 years, 8 months ago by Emakes
I could really use some advice right now so if you have any please leave it below. Now here is my situation.I recently realized I'm probably not straight. A lot of things led up to me coming to this conclusion. Anyway now I am going between bi and lesbian. The problem is I don't want to tell my parents because I'm scared they won't support me. I'm kind of conflicted and confused and could really use some advice/support. Thank you. |
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meganff01
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4 years, 8 months ago by meganff01
the advice i’d give to you is not to put labels on yourself. You don’t have to put those labels on yourself if you don’t want to. It’s perfectly fine i you do feel want to use them but i wouldn’t feel pressured to use them if you don’t want to. I don’t have much advice about coming out to parents but perhaps subtly bring up things such as stuff that has been in the news involving the LGBTQ+ community or BLM. Listen to see how they react and chances are they would be perfectly fine with it because at the end of the day you are still their child and they live you. YUNGBLUD is a very good music artist to listen to because he has some songs about things like this. Also just remember it’s perfectly fine that if for example one day you come out as lesbian and later on you shift more towards bi. Both are completely valid and just because you identified as lesbian before does not make your sexuality any less valid. Hope this helps and just remember there is always someone out there who will understand you completely if you’re 100% yourself. Hope you have a nice day (or night!- i don’t know what time it is for other people!!)
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meganff01
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4 years, 8 months ago by meganff01
^ that’s a bit longer than i thought it’d be!!
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sxnnyside
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4 years, 8 months ago by sxnnyside
I myself was in this situation. You are who you are, and you like whoever you like. My parents were not supportive and that sucks of course, but their opinion does not matter. They can't control who you like and what you are. You should still tell them so they know, and if they don't support you so be it. If they do support you, that is amazing. Just be proud and true to yourself. That's all that matters.
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Emakes
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4 years, 8 months ago by Emakes
@meganff01 Thank you!
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Emakes
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4 years, 8 months ago by Emakes
@sxnnyside Thank you!
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OwObama
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4 years, 8 months ago by OwObama
First of all: it's totally fine to not know your identity in the LGBTQ+ community yet; I'm questioning my sexuality as well. Take your time!Second of all: definitely try to figure out how they feel towards people in the LGBTQ+ community BEFORE you come out to them. As suggested in other responses, be subtle and bring up the LGBTQ+ community or BLM in a casual conversation to see how they respond. If coming out could potentially put you in a dangerous situation (ie being kicked out or punished severely) you don't have to come out to your parents, or even your friends. You have no obligation to do that. If you feel they would understand and support you, then come out whenever you're ready. Your priority should be keeping yourself safe and happy. Best of luck to you! |
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Firecorn
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4 years, 8 months ago by Firecorn
A similar thing has happened to me. I have had crushes on boys, but once I found my self having a crush on my best friend. So I personally identify as bi because I have feelings for both, it's helpful to talk with a friend. 😊
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luka2211
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4 years, 7 months ago by luka2211
I came out a few years ago that I was trans and i was kind of questioning it too. I would ask them how they would feel if you came out as gay or bi and if they say i wouldn't support you maybe it's not the best time to come out. Maybe come out to a friend and they could help you.
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SavannaL
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4 years, 7 months ago by SavannaL
If your parents don't want to support you, their opinion does not matter. If you include their negative opinions, would that help the situation? Nope.
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