Am I the bad guy??
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queenbee23
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2 months ago by queenbee23
Okay I know this might be weird but I really need help 😭! So 6 months ago I met this really sweet guy and I wasn’t necessarily very interested in him romantically but we talked and messaged each other for a few days, and then he asked me out, and I was like I’m not seeing any one right know so what could be the harm? So we had are really nice date and before I know we were dating, and it was really nice, he listened and tried to help me to open up about my feelings and months past and everything was going fine. He had even introduced me to his best friends, and one of them was a girl and we became really close, and so we started telling each other everything! Anyway I guess that I said something that made this girl think that I was lesbian, so she told my boyfriend and he confronted me and I told him that I wasn’t and I thought everything was resolved but two weeks ago he sent me a message accusing me of cheating on him with a girl. And we were doing more than just going on dates if you know what I mean. And when I asked him where he got an idea like that he said my 13 year old brother told him! Like what? I trued to not get defensive and I talked to my brother about it and he cried that I thought he would do something like that! So I truly believe that he didn’t say anything like that! And so I was trying to figure out what to do he messaged say that if we don’t talk life wasn’t going to be worth living. And I immediately texted him and said that we were done. Am I the bad guy here? Do you think that I did the right thing? |
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halokiwi
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2 months ago by halokiwi
You're not the bad guy. A relationship is about trust and he clearly doesn't trust you. In addition to that, he was emotionally blackmailing you. I think you did the right thing by calling it quits.
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samtheclam
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2 months ago by samtheclam
i think you did the right thing, it seems like hes trying to manipulate you by saying that last part!
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BiancaMG
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2 months ago by BiancaMG
You did the right thing. He was toying with you, and bringing your brother into it also just is messed up. He was awful to put you through something like that, and I hope you find a better guy 😘
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-p0lites-
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1 month, 4 weeks ago by -p0lites-
omg you absolutely are not the bad guy! this guy sounds really manipulative and you deserve someone so much better than him.
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queenbee23
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1 month, 3 weeks ago by queenbee23
Thank you so much everyone for your support!
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queenbee23
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1 month, 3 weeks ago by queenbee23
@Update So after I posted this, my ex messaged me begging to have me reconsider my decision, and that we could still be together if it apologize!!! Like what? I’m not the one at fault here, so I blocked and deleted him. But my friend ( which I had not yet told the reason why I had broken up with my ex) messaged him and asked what happened and he told her but made me seem like the bad guy, and that I was broken and unloveable, and that I was lucky that a guy like him would date a girl like me!! I was so mad when I saw that, but I tried to be the bigger person and ignore it, but he has spread rumors throughout the school that I cheated on him and that I am a bad person. What am I supposed to do?
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user254780
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1 month, 3 weeks ago by user254780
maybe try to start over, the everyone not liking me happened to me before, I just didn't talk that much anymore, and only hung out with friends when they asked to, the the year later, everyone was more nice, like if they had forgotten everything they made fun of me before, yes there was maybe a few hater that still remembered, but if that happens to you, I think you know how to deal with it if you were able to deal with your ex.
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skytech
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1 month, 2 weeks ago by skytech
@queenbee23 you’re not the bad guy, if people want to think that let them think that, you just need to be more social and talk the truth, and I’m not saying it’s easy for everyone, but this is also coming from a social butterfly so… but anyway, rumors are just rumors, they’ll blow over eventually!
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